3 Ways to Say "NO"

Ever wanting to guard your time and energy and staying on good terms with others?  Many times it could depend on just saying "No" to requests in one of these ways :

• "No" plus a reason : when you don't want to come across as difficult or uncooperative, say something such as , "I can't help you because... " then offer an acceptable reason.
• "No" with an alternative :  use this approach for your boss or other person in a higher position than you.  Example : "I can't promise that I can finish it by then. But here's what i'm sure I can do..."
• "No" and "no" and "no" : Resort to the broken-record method when you're sure someone is trying to manipulate you or make you feel guilty with repeated requests or an aggressive approach.  Example : "No, I can't change my plans." "I realize this may be important to you, but I still must say "No" because I can't change my plans." "I understand what you're saying. But because I can't change my plans, my answer has to be "No.""